What do you do with a kid who makes up stories about her life to gain attention? And it's not as if she doesn't have enough really serious stuff already going on... She jus embelishes everything and changes it all around till you're not sure what's real and what's not.
What do you do when that same kid drags another's name into the picture and the other vehemently denies any connection? Which one do you believe?
What do you do when there's someone screaming for help inside but plainly refuses to talk to anyone but someone still in high school?
What do you do when you know that telling someone will probably mean the end for this kid, but may mean a new start for another?
I'm so confused as to whether I made the correct decisions...
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Oh my goodness. That's so rough, having to weigh one life against another... I really don't know what I'd do. Especially if you can't really know what she's telling the truth about and what she's making up.
Why do you say telling would mean the end for her? Because they would kick her out of school? Maybe she could start over somewhere else...or is it too late for that, too?
I really pity this girl, she sounds in a real mess. One thing is definate though, no one has a right to ruin another, pull them down or make them lose oppotunities, the other girl has to cut ties so she can fly solo, away from this girl - if necessary speak to her and explain the situation.
Regarding the girl who is having the issues, is there a way that a mature girl in her class or older class can take her under her wing, with yours and other's support? What is happening at home? Is this an indication that there are things going on there?
If you can't help her and she needs help then i suppose u do have to inform your head - i don't see it as an option for u. Sometimes before things can get better they have to reach a breaking point - what may be in the short term hurtful may be in the long term the kindest and most helpful thing u can do.
Good luck and let us know how it goes.
2 things:
1) Are you sure she's doing it for attention. There are disorders that "cause" people to lie and they believe what they are saying.
2) She really needs help. What will happen when she leaves school? A person cannot live a productive life lying all the time.
I know a case of a girl who had her class saying tehillim for her deathly ill mother who really wasn't sick at all.
:(
Really is confusing...
I know that kid -- there was one in my class, too. Mine was one name that sometimes got pulled in, but B"H not with anything major...
I'm also going to echo Scraps -- Why would telling someone be the end? It sounds to me like she needs professional help. Of course, a great deal of thought would have to go into who and how to tell, but ultimately she does not sound likely to be helped otherwise.
theres always the polygraph..
or
waterboarding....
*shrug*
I don't have much to offer in terms of advice as I don't have experience in this area and b'h I was an easy teenager. Just wanted to say I admire you for working so hard to help these girls that are silently screaming for help. Just being there and them knowing how much you care, can mean the world to them. May you have much siyata dishmaya in everything you do.
Ouch! Some tough situations...
Daven. That Hashem should give you the binah and the clarity...
Ask yourself, what does Hashem want, in every situation.
Hatzlocha!!!
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