We just finished arguing.
As usual, we both think we're right.
I wish you'd take a moment to think.
Really think about what I've said.
I'm not the kind of person to just say things.
Take me seriously, please.
I've really thought things through.
My decision wasn't made in a split second.
Nor within a minute.
Rather, it was over many months
and spoken from experience.
Just listen to me for once, ok?
Listen to what I'm saying.
Know who I am
and where I'm coming from.
Know that I'm not you.
And I never will be.
I have different needs.
Different wants.
And you're making things very difficult.
14 comments:
It's just plain wrong for someone to decide what's right for you and try to push you into it!
You had a post with a similar message a while back. Is it the same issue/topic resurfacing?
I wish you much Hatzlocha!
It's so difficult when people refuse to see that we're not who they think we are, or who they think they want us to be.
"The only man who behaved sensibly was my tailor; he took my measurement anew every time he saw me, while all the rest went on with their old measurements and expected them to fit me." ~George Bernard Shaw
(((hugs)))
similar topic, different issue..
thanks. amen.
I know the feeling. I'm me and just let me be, K?
Of course, sometimes when I cool down I see that maybe the other person has a point - a small one - but maybe worth considering...
Just make sure you don't throw the baby out with the bathwater.
Speaking of which, I miss being on the receiving end of your very intelligent arguments. Remember when we first met? :-D
Fight! Fight!
I have a certain friend that does this to me all the time. I think next time she starts lecturing me I'll read this to her instead of holding the receiver away from my ear.
Sounds like the 'rents are on your back.
I can relate, believe me...
b4s - of course the othe person has a point. but when they just cant hear mine, i go nuts.
bm - when did we ever argue?
:P
halfshared - :)
jewmaican - yup, they are. actually, one of them... don't know when it's gonna enter his head that i'm not marrying any guy just to get married...
Well R Yehuda Halevi did that and he ended up with the Ibn Ezra as a son in law. ;-)
G'luk Dreamer. What ure going thru must be very hard.
Its so hard for a parent to see their child not doing what they think is the best thing for them... but hold on to ure convictions and keep being happy.
Is it...not at all possible to...say this to him?
(Without the And you're making things very difficult part, of course...)
From my experiences, and I know they're probably very different from yours, sometimes the only thing that works is frank honesty and open communication. Wow, it kills...but sometimes it helps more than you think it ever will...
((hug))
A prominent Rosh Yeshiva once came to Reb Chaim Brisker all distrught. His daughter wanted to marry someone he did not approve of..and he needed advice...how to stop the shidduch.
R' Chaim looked at him incredulously..
"She's an adult and you are not her boss anymore. You have no right to stop anything..those days are long past..
Goodbye.."
IA - i hear you. and i will forevermore be immensely happy.
corner point - i did. seems like it goes in one ear and out the other. and i told him that too.
lvn - thanks
david - well, this is kinda the opposite, but ell that to my dad.
:)
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