I went to a workshop over Shabbos.
One woman asked how she can stop dominating over her 19 year old son and give him space if she's so worried about him all the time.
The group of us then argued over the pros and cons of telling your older child that he/she must call home by a certain time each night if they are not in house.
My opinion was that though the child may not realize it at the time, this calling to check in is a symbol of respect on the child's part and showing care from the parents' part.
I also added that if the parent calls to make sure the child calls, he/she isn't allowing the child his/her freedom and not allowing him/her to learn responsibility.
What's your take on things?
One woman asked how she can stop dominating over her 19 year old son and give him space if she's so worried about him all the time.
The group of us then argued over the pros and cons of telling your older child that he/she must call home by a certain time each night if they are not in house.
My opinion was that though the child may not realize it at the time, this calling to check in is a symbol of respect on the child's part and showing care from the parents' part.
I also added that if the parent calls to make sure the child calls, he/she isn't allowing the child his/her freedom and not allowing him/her to learn responsibility.
What's your take on things?
